PATIENCE & UNDERSTANDING… LOTS OF IT.
The first month of motherhood was the worst for me, personally I probably only slept like 4 hours & that’s with the help of my husband, we would take turns & I’m so blessed to have an amazing husband who stood with me for 2 weeks but then after he went back to work ” WHAT DO I DO NOW!?” I was frustrated, crying, tired & definitely being alone most of the time wasn’t helping. Suddenly in between my frustration, my husband & I had a conversation & honestly the last thing I wanted was to have a “talk” I mean I’m tireddddddd! but it was worth it & you know why? because out of the whole conversation something touched my heart & that was when he said “Once you understand they’re babies, things will be easier.” Ohhh was he right ? YES!, I had to really sit down & say to myself “I got this, I’m not the first nor last mother on earth, I can do this.” And here I am a year later & husband was right…things are so much easier now.
GET READY TO LET GO!
Sometimes its hard to see our little ones cry, desperate calling out for mommy, but the truth is that you must be prepared because this most likely will occur on the first week. So sit back & takes notes because this ride is about to get excited.!
STEP 1: Be supportive BUT don’t spoil them.
For starters since day one she was sleeping in her crib in her own room, no bassinet nor our bed (which is not safe, specially if they’re that small) & just like every newborn, it was hard for her to let go of me, that’s correct, I said me, mommy. The first month she was waking up 2-3 times a night and the worst part of this was that some nights she wouldn’t go back to sleep right away after her first feeding. Right there I knew I had to do something. I Started by being consistent in her nap timing and amount of feeding throughout the day, no matter how much she cried, I had to be strong & make it work.
HERE IS HER MORNING SCHEDULE: 9:00 am- 12:00 noon: Wake up time, lunch & playing time & by 12 I’d put her down to nap.
12:00 pm – 2 pm: She naps & I don’t let her pass this time, if any exceptions only an extra 30 minutes.
2:30 pm- 5:00 pm: Her biggest meal of the day, more playing time, reading books to her & get her ready for her next nap of the day.
5:00 – 7:30 pm: Last nap of the day, her dad & I would cuddle & play with her in bed, we watch movies, just having family quality time.
9:30 pm-10:20 pm (latest): Get her ready for “washy-washy” time which is her bath time, usually I give her a few minutes to play in the tub, dry her up, sing & pray with her & lay her in bed with her bottle ( Of course I’m monitoring her through a camera.) Once she finished her bottle she would cry & I would give her max of 15 mins to fall & day by day I started sticking to this schedule & here I am a year and a half later living the results.
It was hard at first, but keep in mind I tried my best to not go inside the room every time she would cry, I give her time to get used to being alone, maybe you would think it was too early when we started practicing this but we felt comfortable & we were able to rest all night, believe it or not Camila can sleep up to 11 hours. Hope this helps all mommies out there, Good Luck.